Women and Headphones

Possibly the dumbest most sexist thing I've read in 2016 is up online. Titled How to Talk to a Woman Wearing Headphones it's classic misogynist bullshit.

She doesn't want to talk to you, bro.

She doesn't want to talk to you, bro.

Let's start from the beginning:

These days, many women walk around playing with a smartphone or tablet device and are often wearing headphones and listening to music at the same time.
Yet, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them.

Let me stop you right there chief. Why do you want to talk to her? Is it because she's pretty? Excellent. You've identified a pretty woman. That must mean she wants to talk to you. Because I know for myself, when I'm wearing headphones, I am begging for random people to come and talk to me. They are in no way a non-verbal signal to everyone around to leave me the fuck alone.

But having identified a woman you're attracted to, it is time to assert your will, whether she's signaling she wants to be chatted with or not.

Here's some more sage advice:

1. Stand in front of her (with 1 to 1.5 meters between you). (Invade her space)

2. Have a confident, easy-going smile. (Because of course, she wants to talk to you, hence the headphones)

3. If she hasn’t already looked up at you, simply get her attention with a wave of your hand. Wave your hand in her direct line of vision so she can see it and say, “Hey, how’s it going?” She most likely won’t hear you say that, but it’s just a way of showing her that you’re trying to talk to her. (Annoy her by deliberately getting in her line of sight.)

4. When she looks at you and gives you her attention, smile, point to her headphones and confidently ask, “Can you take off your headphones for a minute?” as you pretend to be taking headphones off your head, so she fully understands what you mean. (Interrupt her)

Articles like this are stone-age advice columns on how to "pull" women. They assume that a woman's time and attention are yours to be demanded. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's never OK to approach a woman. What I'm saying is that women hanging out at a bar or club have made a decision to go to an open social environment known for spurring conversation. A woman sitting at a little Starbucks table listening to music didn't come to talk to you.

It makes the basic assumption that women are for men. That no matter what social clues she's given, she secretly wants men to talk to her, to seduce her. It assumes women are stupid targets ready to be hunted. 

I can't believe stuff like this get's written in 2016.